Unmasking Superficial Criticisms, Embracing Real Advocacy

Can something trivial as sunglasses spark a meaningful conversation about trust and representation in the trans community? 

Chapters

• 0:00 Transparency and Trust
• 7:13 Call to Action for Trans Activism

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

I wanted to mention one thing. Okay, you notice, I'm not wearing sunglasses, right? Yes, you're wearing your reading glasses, your librarian glasses today Because one of the comments we don't have it on the screen for you, but one of the comments was very concerned about my trust. Oh, because they were concerned that someone that wears sunglasses they could never trust.

Speaker 2: 0:21

Oh.

Speaker 1: 0:23

I'm here for you the level of reach that y'all are in these comments. If you want to call me out for something, call me out for being fat. You know what I mean. If you want to call me out for something, call me out, you know. Call me out for maybe my hair don't look right, maybe I got a little stain on my glasses, something, but that's what y'all got. Like I swear, some of these comments that I saw the most, that I saw the, the, where they got me yeah, gotcha, they got your honey was when I was looking down, uh are you kidding, looking down?

Speaker 1: 0:57

well, first the fuck of all, let's be fucking for real and I'm gonna be a hundred percent real with you. I had to do what's called active listening because of the crazy Jersey shore crack that was going on in that set and I was having to deal with folks that were interjecting constant misinformation and also have to make a point out of that, while also having a director that kept cutting us all off. So it felt really interesting to have to navigate that and at a certain point I knew that the individual in question was not going to actually have a conversation with me. So, yeah, I looked down in sorrow for all of us.

Speaker 1: 1:37

I felt pain that there was trans people on a stage having a chance to have a conversation and opportunity, people on a stage having a chance to have a conversation and opportunity, and y'all tried to make that a read Like that should be a sign of the trauma you can currently see me experiencing from the director, from the production, from Blair herself. But not one of y'all even wanted to even look at that situation. Not one of y'all. And it's so disturbing to me because, again, a lot of the comments that came, for they had softballs for me. They were coming for you the most and I got to tell you I was almost hoping for more comments for me, because what that shows is again that trans male erasure that happens while at the same time, that anti-blackness that you had. So those two things happen and if you go ahead and you look at almost every comment in the video, most of it is directed at you.

Speaker 1: 2:31

Yeah, and that's the craziest thing is because allegedly wasn't I the one that said to blair what do you even do? Wasn't I the one that really said, like the most offensive thing, which I still stand 10 toes down what do you even do? What do you do? And if you sit there and you want to say, I create content, you create hate, content of children. That's what you're doing and you're hurting our community. You're hurting yourself. And guess what?

Speaker 1: 2:57

We saw, what happened to candace owens. Don't think that's not on your path, and that's what I am trying to give you advice here. Because, clearly again, if the most that y'all can read me on is that I looked down or that I shouldn't have said that to Blair or this and that or the other, y'all come on Like, can you give me some better insults than that? Like, call me fat, come on, give me something to work with, because everything you try to come for me in it just was laughable. It was like oh, my god, I wear sunglasses. Geez, don't wear sunglasses, okay. Well, every other person on the planet that wear sunglasses is not trustworthy, and I want you all to hold those people accountable then too, for these petty little statements you made. Yeah, when instead you could have actually heard what I was saying and the things that were going on in the conversation about trans people coming together and all the different experiences and the middle grounds we had. But no, you wanted to support your ride or die, little friend, which is sad.

Speaker 1: 3:53

Because, guess what? Can I tell you something? Every one of you that are subscribed to her, I got to tell you this I don't think she would like you one bit. I don't think she would. I don't think she would like you one bit, I don't think she would. I don't think she would call you to hang out the movies with you. I don't know why you were placating to a person that would throw you away buffoons.

Speaker 1: 4:12

And it's truly in a grifting space to grift our community, continuously grift our community, and watch all of these revenue streams for her kind of dry up. Because, again, I would like to also mention that Valentino, by the way, is going to be working with my wife and I, and that's kind of nice to have a brand to actually recognize me as a trans person because of the work that I do. But I don't know if you're going to be able to have access to that girl. So you know what, maybe I'm looking down at my phone to check my bank balance, to make sure everything's good after this she's too busy listing my resume and you see why I'm invited to those spaces and you are not.

Speaker 1: 4:50

Oh, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, and there's a reason for that.

Speaker 2: 4:57

There's a clear stupidly hey that's a new one. We did not have that that. No, I like that one.

Speaker 1: 5:04

I definitely give a little.

Speaker 2: 5:08

That's the one I've been waiting on all day. I'm invited to these spaces and you're not because I've done the work enough in community. I don't make hateful content and I am a very controversial person. Because I'm controversial to conservative people? Yeah, because of my very strong liberal stance and views or whatnot, and when I see all these people talking about me it makes me feel so divine, right that y'all care enough about what my black trans self got to say. Whether you like me or not, y'all still watch me.

Speaker 1: 5:39

You took time out of your day to type those comments. Let's go, girls.

Speaker 2: 5:44

What's the next comment or next video?

Speaker 1: 5:46

I'm ready, I'm ready for the next one. Honey Solomon, can we get that? Ooh, what do we got here now?

Speaker 2: 5:52

Blossom, using her transness and skin color to make her voice heard over others and use it as an excuse to interrupt others, while ridiculing others, for interrupting her is absolutely disgusting.

Speaker 1: 6:03

First of, all it's a run-on sentence.

Speaker 2: 6:05

Very run-on. I was like where's the period this is?

Speaker 1: 6:08

coming from like, I got dyslexia and I always try to shout out to people that don't get the grammar the best, because I'm not a grammar, you know, perfectionist. But, girl, we need a period.

Speaker 2: 6:17

Yeah, and they need to capitalize. They need to capitalize my name. They don't ever do nothing.

Speaker 1: 6:23

So what excuses are you making for others? Ridiculing others, interrupting others, but meanwhile you're not going to hold accountable Miss White for doing any of the exact same behaviors. Hmm, interesting. Why do you think that is? Do you think that could possibly be? What is that called anti-blackness?

Speaker 2: 6:39

Yeah, but you know, to be fair I don't know if they kind of have a point or not, but to be fair, because I'm the only black person I became a priority voice, and that's what they're hating on, because I utilize the fact that I'm a priority voice. I think Alex was also a priority voice as well, too. You know what I mean, and so and I just took advantage of that opportunity, and it was just like you know what I mean Like, did I interrupt others on there? I have to go back and look, we did a little bit. Okay, did we? We did a little bit. I'm not going to lie, listen. We did a little bit. Oh yeah, they got mad when I said do not interrupt a black trans woman when she's speaking and that will go down in history. That's history. That's all I need. I can't wait to wear that on a shirt though. Yeah, yes, and even if other people make it and try to throw it on the shirt or whatever, it's not going to be the same no it's not going to be the same.

Speaker 2: 7:29

Y'all ridiculing me, that's fine. I ain't got no feelings. No way, child, I'm a double air sign. I'm a libra sun gemini moon. You think?

Speaker 1: 7:35

that we could be in activism and have the kind of we got to work with logic yeah, but you know, it's's just.

Speaker 2: 7:40

it's like I'm trying to figure out when to not ridicule people, because we weren't rude like that, if anything, I might have got that, but again, that comment never came for me. Yeah, like we didn't ridicule anyone, we don't. It's a debate. I did say what did you do? Though I did what, and that would be the ridicule, but all the trans the other trans influencers, who we shall not name, got really upset with you about that and you know what?

Speaker 1: 8:05

because they're guilty. Stay mad. Stay mad, because if you were mad about that, then I touch something that is a nerve that you need to work on and heal. Because guess what, if you've got this platform and you've got this access, with the genocide our community is experiencing and you are not doing just one thing. I'm not asking you to solve world hunger. I'm not asking you to raise two million million, like jury and mercury have done. I'm asking you to just show up in some way, shape or form and create something for us as a community to actually have as equity.

Speaker 1: 8:33

And if you're sitting here and just creating all this grifter content, making your little content and turning it into I'm changing the world? No, sweetie, you're not. You know what you're doing. You're creating a hole that you're going to have to dig yourself out of later.

Speaker 1: 8:49

Because, at the end of the day, when everything has gone away and all the work that you and I have done for our community and the other folks, and especially the folks before us and the pioneers that got us access to medical care, to rights, to all of the things, like Marsha P and Sylvia Rivera, first of all those folks wouldn't even share a cup of water with you because of what you're doing and you know that deep down inside and I think that there is a part of you that wants to change and I'm going to manifest that. I want to manifest that a lot of these trans conservatives that have been whatever path down that they got on because of the grift or whatever I'm trying to set the example that all of that shit has got to change. Yeah, because we got kids dying, like next, and there's no situation, but you got to also want to change, and that's the thing, though.

Speaker 2: 9:38

It's like they're stuck on stupid, because it's like they feel like it's working for them, and it just makes them look more like morons to me.