Personal stories of coming out and family support

The clip episode dives deep into stories of acceptance, love, and the struggle for identity within the context of family dynamics and societal norms, particularly for Black LGBTQ+ individuals. 

It emphasizes the importance of unity, the need for self-care in activism, and the call for accountability in political alignment.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Unity and Advocacy for Change
• 7:19 Celebrating Courage and Empathy

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

ways that we can work around this. We need to figure out the schools. We need to figure out this life in general, like the things that we are teaching our kids right now. What are we teaching our kids? Our president can be this nasty person and still win. Are we teaching our kids that, no matter what, there's consequences to your actions and there's actually a better way to do things to make other people's lives better versus worse?

Speaker 2: 0:29

yeah, I was. I want to share my coming out story with you guys because I feel like it's important, especially based on what you both just said. Yeah, um, I have a father who is from the south, like the south, uh, christian super and everyone. When I came out, it was like, well, how are you gonna tell him, like everyone was kind of like we knew, like you know, we're waiting for? Well, how are you going to tell him, like everyone was kind of like we knew, like you know, we're waiting for you? But how are you going to tell that man, because my dad is very like my dad's, the. He's like the patriarch of our family, he's like the one, he's the one, um, and we're very close.

Speaker 2: 0:58

I remember I called my. I tell you kids all the time. He's like I had you, I know every single thing about you before you know it about yourself. My daddy and I are like this Because he was like I'm not going to take all of this past trauma of whatever I've been through with my religion and my being from the South. I'm not going to project that onto my son. That's my baby. I love him, that's mine. But daddy and I are like this. I love my daddy because he did not fall victim to. That's beautiful. You know what I mean. And it was it's. I was telling my partner this last night. I was like I'm so happy. You know what I mean. Like it's because that's so, that's so rare, which is disgusting, that that's rare.

Speaker 3: 1:31

Yeah, that's for black men. Well, it's important to raise.

Speaker 1: 1:39

Black community. Dad, like you've probably seen, like my Instagram, you see how I change a lot and he's all like and we never had a good relationship Like. I was always with my mom all the time. So when I told my dad, I'm like Dad, you know, this is what I am, this is what it is. He's all like, baby, you always had a good head on your shoulders. You've always been accomplished in everything that you do, no matter what it is, and you've always made your own way and I love you, no matter what.

Speaker 1: 2:11

And for him to be from the south also, that is a big thing, because yeah that teaches anyone from the south, any black person within their families, acceptance is you just have to give it ride it and then you all eat together. No matter what, we all going to come to the same home, we all want to come back to the same people, we all going to make money, we all going to win together. But when you take that second, that option and be like I don't want to deal with these people, guess what? Now I'm winning without you and when I win without you, I'm going to win big, oh for sure, like I'm going to win the lotto up in here. And then when I win that lotto, guess what? You're left in the back, I'm in the front and anyone who was with me during that point is going to win with me.

Speaker 3: 2:56

I love that we all understand the importance of unity in this room. I genuinely appreciate that. I just really hate that. The reality of it is Donald Trump and the way that he weaponizes people, the way that he uses people. It's disgraceful, it's despicable, it's disgusting. But I believe that it will take us building a coalition amongst each other and having these conversations and carrying these conversations over that we can fight against that. You know what I mean, like as a trans woman. I just think about where I am in society now, especially being a black trans woman. Then, on top of that, I'm also native as well too, and so there's a lot of, there's a lot of like transphobia within the Native American community that I'm also a part of. So, you know, I look at where I am in this country today and where I stand, and I'm just exhausted.

Speaker 1: 3:45

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 3:45

I have been out here advocating for black women, black men, immigrants.

Speaker 2: 3:50

Trans men in general Trans men.

Speaker 3: 3:52

I have been advocating for everyone, everyone, and I just want to see a return on my investment.

Speaker 4: 3:57

There's a phenomenon. Have you seen the hashtag black rest or something? Black women rest, yes, and so.

Speaker 3: 4:04

I'm glad you brought that up, because I have been contemplating whether I want to promote that, because, as a black trans woman, I need to rest too.

Speaker 2: 4:12

Yes.

Speaker 3: 4:13

But I can only rest for so long, because I know that if I rest too long, we not going. I'm not going to be able to come back. Number one, number two I could be in a place of detriment where I don't know if I can pull myself up. You know, as a trans person in this country, our rights to gender affirming care, our rights to be able just to use the freaking bathroom.

Speaker 3: 4:34

You know my friend Sarah McBride is going through what she's going through in Congress, which I'm so proud of her because I've known Sarah for over 10 years, when I first became an activist. You know she was there with HRC and so you know it's just a lot happening. But I appreciate the conversations whether we agree or disagree that are happening around that, because that's how we build coalitions of understanding and what I hope is because, you know, astrologically, looking at all the aspects or whatever, yes, there is a race war potentially happening, but it's how we combat it and I really I love what you said so much because it's so, so important. I just think that we have to learn to take what we're saying here and find impactful ways to make that change happen.

Speaker 4: 5:19

I don't think it's for me, though. Can we please, please, please, stop pushing that? I don't want to do it. No, no, no. So here's the thing.

Speaker 3: 5:26

I don't want to wish it but I'm also a realist because you know when I'm looking at the astrology of it or whatnot, it's already happening. It's been happening for so long under this Trump administration permission for people who essay, people who commit rape, commit crimes, pedophilia, all of those things to be able to thrive this is where it's a little bit different than the first time and become emboldened as well, because as soon as the election hit, my comment section went broop. But see, if y'all notice, this is where the difference happened the first time.

Speaker 4: 6:09

I don't even I like this is where the difference happened the first time. I don't even I like I will read my TikTok comments the first 10 minutes after I post a video, and then anything after that. I just don't even look, so I want to make this very clear.

Speaker 3: 6:16

We're not wishing anything here, but I do think we have to be prepared for it, because this is the difference between now and the first time. He wasn't convicted of all those things the first time Right. And it those things the first time right, yeah, and it's giving permission for people who feel empowered by trump.

Speaker 4: 6:31

I know the fact that you know what this monster is, but you're still riding for it, correct, like the first time. It was kind of like well, you know, we like his ideas, we. He's never been a politician before, so we don't know if he's gonna be horrible and then he was. So we all know now that he's horrible. We've all watched him be horrible for like eight years. If you're still willing to vote for him, same on you like, but that's such a much worse beast like.

Speaker 4: 6:58

At first I was just like okay, our country's stupid. Now it's more like oh, like we. This is beyond stupid, because we all know the allegations and the accusations against all these people. For sure. But yet you still choose to ride with them.

Speaker 1: 7:12

Right.

Speaker 4: 7:12

That's not just ignorance, that's an issue of morality, you know.

Speaker 2: 7:16

Yes, it's Sorry. No, no, go ahead. It was so nice to meet you because I've been watching the podcast for a while now and I saw your content doing that, I was like I cannot wait to meet you. Oh, thank you.

Speaker 3: 7:28

You're on the famous couch now. You're part of the podcast, yeah.

Speaker 2: 7:31

I appreciate all of y'all.

Speaker 3: 7:32

I was excited to see all of y'all too, like I, just because getting on that show and debating Ben Shapiro all four of you like that was so powerful, because you all come from your unique experiences and people like him need to see it and face off with it, like I think and I know you didn't get a chance to go up there, but you know you got to have your- moment because we're manifesting moments, bigger moments, for all of y'all here.

Speaker 3: 7:56

You know, I want to say to the people cause you know I'm kind of the only one that wasn't there or whatever you know, I am so proud of you, we are so proud of you, because it took courage, it took charisma to be able to sit there with patience, with empathy, because y'all had enough empathy to go on there and you know what To Jubilee?

Speaker 1: 8:16

my face ain't not that big, Thank you.

Speaker 4: 8:18

My face is not that big.

Speaker 1: 8:20

I am not that big in the face.

Speaker 3: 8:22

I mean they talk so much. You had enough empathy to go on there and just talk about what you needed to say I'm so happy.

Speaker 4: 8:29

Oh, by the way, I actually just want to clear something up, because people kept making fun of me for wearing that dog collar. My dog died.

Speaker 1: 8:37

Wow.

Speaker 4: 8:37

Yeah, I bet y'all feel stupid now, don't you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, wow, yeah. People kept being like she's in a dog collar. I'm like my dog died. And now I don't wear it. Also, the latch broke on it, but now I don't wear it. I like it. Thank you, yes, thank you you.