How a Relationship Digitally Gone Wrong?

A disturbing account of digital abuse and financial exploitation within a relationship reveals how revenge porn was used as a weapon during a toxic breakup. What seemed like a supportive partnership masked a pattern of manipulation that led to severe financial hardship and public humiliation on social media platforms.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Toxic Relationship Dynamics
• 0:37 Revenge Porn Incidents Explained
• 2:42 Financial Struggles and Deception
• 5:29 Truth About Living Arrangements
• 6:09 New Man's Conflicting Story
• 8:56 Clarifying Financial Responsibilities

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

and he did this. There's a power thing. He's new to meeting her, they're new to dating. There's a lot there, there's, but, um, there was a toxic energy there that it's like he was not standing up brother to brother in that moment to sit on a live, while she's misgendering you, saying all of the stuff she said about you while even previously, before this happened, um, from my understanding, didn't you have your nudes leaked and things like that by her and she threatened to leak them because you weren't acting the way she like.

Speaker 2: 0:29

Explain what happened with the nudes thing because revenge porn, revenge porn is never okay and I think it's illegal in states and stuff right, I sent you.

Speaker 3: 0:37

I'm not sure if you saw it, but in one of the live clips that I sent you, like towards the end, she does it in there, um, but she, she and I was actively working, so she, she did it actually a total of three times. So the first time she did it was on her tiktok live almost 2 000 people looking. The second time she did it, um, she hacked my tiktok, my backup tiktok account. She went in there, she stole money she about $150 from me and then she distributed the picture to all of our mutuals and then put it on our story in the middle of me literally working my nine to five. And then she hacked one of my very old Instagram accounts that I don't even know the password to, and then I sent you that receipt too. She posted it all on there and then was in the comments arguing with me back and forth like broke character, um, and then pretty much gave herself up. She was trying to act like me wait, wait.

Speaker 2: 1:31

Did I hear this correctly? You're nine to five. Can you repeat that?

Speaker 3: 1:34

yeah, I was working at my nine to five and she was doing all of this to me. So, like I'm working and I get a text and I work from home at the time, okay, like just I did you just post that, and I'm like, post what? And I went to my thing and like, literally, my hand was like this, like I couldn't even like get into the phone, like my hand was like literally shaking, but I was really humiliated by that. Now the way that she even got that photo is she tries to push online that I was sending it to women and all this. If you listen to her, she goes from me saying she's going, goes from saying I think it's a woman to men, to the whole world. No, the reality of the situation is I did send that picture to one man, one man, and the reason I needed to send that picture to him was because we had an eviction, an eviction letter on our door. She was getting payments that were invisible. I didn't get paid for another two weeks. He was in my. You know that people being our DMs is offering strange things for a little bit of change, right? Usually, typically I ignore it, but I needed the money, like I couldn't wait two more weeks for all those fees to go on. It's like paying damn near half another month of rent and then having to pay, turn around and pay my again. So I bit great and I got paid. I got paid $500. I paid my the rent that I needed.

Speaker 3: 2:52

But where I messed up is I did not tell her and I will take accountability for that. I did not loop her into it only because I was human as a man, I was embarrassed One. I'm a trans man. I'm showing another man that I'm not. I'm not even sexually attracted to men. So for me to have to like open that door I was just humiliated and then to bring it to her.

Speaker 3: 3:11

I didn't want her to feel like down about herself because she was the one that lacked the payments that I was relying on. And then she I didn't also want her to feel like she needed to go show hers. So I was just trying to take really one for the team and also I was embarrassed. So because I didn't tell her. She concocted, after going through my phone, a story in her brain and then, once we separated, I didn't even know she had the picture she that's when she started going crazy, um, but she also used it, utilized them to have people questioning my sexuality, like it was just a lot. It was a lot. It was a lot um. Did she have a?

Speaker 3: 3:50

job ever at the time at all, no, she worked at universal for like one second um, but she wasn't she was not working at all, like she lived with me and lived in the home and it's funny that how you touched on it, just from being like a spectator on the outside, how you felt like maybe she could have been, like exploiting me allegedly for her, her platform, one of our major arguments would be that she wasn't doing anything. While living in my house I was showing up for her 110%, taking care of her child, you know, providing a roof, working outrageous numbers, trying to pay for my top surgery on top of that, and then, um, her son, like there was that's a lot of finances um to take care of um. So one of our biggest arguments were I didn't feel like she wasn't doing anything like in return and I'm not talking about financially there was nothing really there, mentally, emotionally, she wasn't really cleaning the house, things like that um, where that was a red flag, but I ignored it because I felt as though like, maybe, like I'm being dramatic, maybe I'm I'm the one doing too much, but there was, she was not. I was. A lot of the time I felt like I was getting more and she was just taking, and when we broke up I told her I said my, my cup. Even in one of the emails I had told her my cup is literally empty. I have nothing else to give to you for my cup.

Speaker 3: 5:10

I started to lose everything around me. My car had got a repo. I was getting eviction letters on my door. I wasn't even getting that when I was single, paying for my cup surgery by myself. Before I got with her, I had already started paying for my top surgery and I wasn't late on my rent. I wasn't late on my car. I didn't have any issues. So when the narrative that gets pushed like Josiah doesn't have anything, josiah doesn't know, I don't have anything because one I almost lost it all for her. Then I turned around and gave it all up for her to try to make things, in hopes to make everything work, and then when I realized and got the boss to leave, of course I didn't have anything because she took it all and I almost feel as though she moved me over to Texas and like as like some type of like evil, weird plot, like it was just weird because she even came out later on and said that she's been talking to the dude. So this is like I don't get it, like I don't you know.

Speaker 2: 6:06

So do we have video of the of this new man or? Yeah she got. I want to see this I want to see this.

Speaker 1: 6:11

No, and this video is interesting because he's even calling her out about, like how she kind of misled him. Uh, if we could play that, what?

Speaker 4: 6:19

yeah, yeah she. That's the last time she came out here to visit her family.

Speaker 4: 6:27

Her child came because her child came to visit his grandmother and whatever other family she has out this way. That's why her child is with her. I hit her up, said what you doing? I see you in my city. She said well, while I'm out here, I do want to have fun. I'm meeting up with other people. Of course, you know other content creators and shit like that. But she's like but meanwhile I do want to go to the beach in hollywood and shit like that. All right, come on, let's go, I go.

Speaker 4: 7:04

Of course her son wants to do this stuff too. Her son wants to get on the ferris wheel, her son want to get on the roller coaster. That's why her son was with me. We were literally going to go. What is that? Santa Monica? Literally going to Santa Monica to get on the beach and all the rides and shit. That's literally why she wanted to go to Santa Monica. They both wanted to go there to get on the roller coaster. I don't know why. Shit is bullshit if we know. And the Ferris Wheel bullshit. Santa Monica Roller coasters don't even go upside down, but it's something if we know. And the Ferris wheel bullshit, ronicosa don't even go upside down, but it's something they would start struck about doing. That's why the child is around, was around me Other than you know, eating and all of that stuff and me playing with them, with the wrestlers and stuff, only reason.

Speaker 3: 7:57

So it's so funny that he says that they're both such horrible liars. Because it's so funny that he says that they're both such horrible liars? Because I love that you just call it straight out. No because no, I saw the live.

Speaker 1: 8:07

I watched him sit there and giggle and to me it was that whole thing of like I've got bottom surgery, so I'm more of a man than you are, so he's a post-op he's a post-op man, so he's a trans man that likes to look down on other trans men who are pre-op Because they don't have pre-, pathetic, like a transmedicalist situation and like the stuff that came out of her mouth and kind of the way that even they navigated with their content.

Speaker 1: 8:31

I mean I saw him actively posting her and it was just really toxic. And I had one more question before we wrap up on, uh, on the finance. So, in terms of like finances and stuff, like, were you guys like equally sharing the bills or was she covering your bills because, like I know, she has her tiktok following you said she doesn't have a job, so how is she able to cover the cost for, like, her kid and stuff like that? Because the narrative that like was put on the internet is like, oh, you're living off of her and and from what it kind of sounds like, is that sounds kind of the opposite in a way. I mean, it sounds like you had the nine to five and you were providing, yeah, a space for her. Um, let me know if I've missed anything or something's off no, yeah, no, you're absolutely correct.

Speaker 3: 9:16

what a lot of the internet doesn't even understand is the way that she ended up living with me is because her mother kicked her and her son out. Also, people have this like you know perception when they see people with a large following, that automatically means money. Yeah, no, she was not. She wasn't even making more money than my nine to five at that point in time.

Speaker 1: 9:37

When she started blowing up again on TikTok is when she accused me of false allegations of being so it created her following to go up, which I think is what really created her addiction in TikTok, because I've seen so many TikTok creators do that and kind of exploit themselves, not to say that we don't, you know, do things.